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Death has been on mind lately a little too much. More so than usual.

April 9th, ’18 – Not sure why it was on my mind when I first those words above, but today I am writing specifically because of a recent death, but more generally because . . . . .

All life will eventually end in death. That is a fact. For us, human beings, death probably has more of an affect than it does to most other beings. Or so we think / believe. Our religions don’t even mention the after life for beings that are not human.

My own personal experience with death came when I was not 10 yet. A great grand mother of mine passed away after a long illness. She was very close to me and my family. But being the age that I was, I didn’t really feel the loss that I should have felt. I was more caught up in the whole “process” of dealing with her death. We went and visited her grave almost everyday for the next few days (maybe weeks). At least the next 40 days at least.

Not till very recently did I find out that some of my friends didn’t necessarily experience the death of someone close to them at as an early age as I. Not sure why I was so surprised.

Death on the Living

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Early Death?

If there really a right time from one’s life to come to an end? Not too long ago the life expectancy for humans used to be about 30~40 years. Now that is twice as long.

Irrespective of how long a life is the appropriate length, I suppose life that choose to end ourselves are examples of early deaths.

The other day I heard something about only 26 people surviving from attempting to take their own lives by jumping of the golden gate bridge. Most, maybe all 26, of them said later that they wished they had not chosen to jump the very moment they did.

– manzoor

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We don’t realize this but most things in life are bi-directional. Communication, relationship are 2 that comes to mind off the top.

When we communicate we often pay more attention to what we say and what we hear and not enough on what the other is saying or maybe hearing. Just because I say something does not guarantee that the other heard the same.

Relationships are even more complicated. We all know it takes “give” and “take” in all relationships. What we sometimes fail to realize is how skewed our perception of “give” and “take” are. If we were “machines” and not “human”, what we “gave” would be exactly what the other “took”. But since we are human beings, what we give is way bigger than what the other got. Just like what we “took” is so much smaller than what the other “gave”. This comes from our own bias.

But it is quite surprising that so many relationships do work out, while so many don’t. There isn’t necessarily any magic recipe that causes some to work out.

All happy people are happy the same way. Every sad person is sad in their own unique way.

I don’t really agree. I think every happiness, every sadness, every each emotion is unique. They cannot be duplicated or replicated. They can be imitated to some extent.

– manzoor

Safety Not Guaranteed

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Jan 11th, ’14 – I wasn’t really aware of this movie till very recently. Then on my Netflix profile it showed up as a suggested movie. I happened to be working late yesterday (Friday) and I started playing it while I was still at work (and almost everyone at the office had left). I only watched the first 15 minutes or so and got hooked. Woke up this morning and finished watching it.

– manzoor

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Lately I have been trying to NOT start writing anything about a movie till I actually watch it, but I am making an exception here. From watching the trailer so far, to me, it seems to be a movie on the definition of “relationship”. Which is really interesting – given that we are having such a active debate on the particular definition of “marriage”.

– manzoor

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Our lives are a collection of relationships. Some are active, some passive. Some professional but most are personal. Even some of the professional ones have a personal element. But most are situational. That is the one characteristic that is common. Very rarely do we choose to be in a relationship with someone. It is a situation that brings us together and then it is up to us to work on the relationship.

Our relationship with our parents are probably, and usually, the very first that we are presented with.

Marriage is one of the few, if not the only one, where we do get into a contract to be in the relationship. Yes, we do from time to time get into a business partnership in a somewhat similar style and also when we get into a employee / employer situation there is also a “contract” involved but the marriage contract seems unique.

50% of marriages end in divorces.

The other half end in death.

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– manzoor

When Did Marriage Become So Hard?

Man & Woman

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“The weaker sex is the stronger sex,
because of the weakness of the stronger sex
for the weaker sex.”

Maybe I should call this “Man vs Woman” but I really want to keep this away from being comparative.

The other day my friend (he’s a psychiatrist) was saying how Man and Woman differ. For example, in a breakup – a woman will have a bigger crisis before the actual event. Once the breakup happens she will “move on” faster / better than the man. The longer a man is in a relationship the more dependent he becomes on his SO – without realizing it.

Of course I got this from my friend and never really looked into it or asked him where I could get more info. By the way, it has now been almost 15 years and I don’t even recall who this friend of mine was 😦

But let’s assume that my friend was right, does it then imply that the woman is the stronger sex because she is able to move on from one to the next faster?

– manzoor

P.S. I have kept the original post below just to give me a reference of where I started.

==================THE ORIGINAL POST=====================

“The weaker sex is the stronger sex,
because of the weakness of the stronger sex
for the weaker sex.”

Maybe I should call this “Man vs Woman” but I really want to keep this away from being comparitive.

The other day my friend (he’s a psychiarist) was saying how Man and Woman differ. For example, in a breakup – a woman will have a bigger crisis before the actual event. Once the breakup happens she will “move on” faster / better than the man.

The longer a man is in a relationship the more dependent he becomes on his SO – without realizing it.

So, the question really becomes – who is the stronger sex? The above quote is valid only if we assume Man to be the stronger sex. But if my friend is right, then we have to declare Woman to be the stronger sex.

– manzoor