There are times in life when you have to re-act, but if we can keep that to a minimum and try to be pro-active more it puts us in more of a position of control. Which does not mean necessarily a need to be “controlling” of things but more taking ownership and responsibility. When we don’t take ownership / responsibility it becomes easier for us to put the blame on someone / something else.
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Recently I saw a couple of video posts of Will Smith. I was not really searching or anything but I believe they showed up on my FB and / or Twitter feeds.
The first of these posts had to do with his confession to his wife that he could not be responsible for her happiness, nor she for his.
I am not simply writing this post to re-share or talk about Will Smith’s beautiful posts but more as a reminder that I have written on these specific topics and hoping that I will revisit those and maybe edit enhance the.
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I am fairly certain we all at some point or another, maybe even many times, have had thought what it was that made / make us happy.
This afternoon, I stumbled on a TED Talk by Sam Berns entitled “My philosophy for a happy life“.
At the age of 2 Sam, as you will have learned if you watch the talk I have embedded above, was diagnosed with Progeria, a rare, rapid aging disease.
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As a parent I find myself struggling with the idea of raising my children. OK, “struggling” might be a bit to hard – I find myself asking “am I doing it right?” Of course, I don’t even know what right is. I do try to talk to other’s but often end up arguing with people who are so sure of their methods that I find it difficult to actually have a conversation. the best conversation I have are with people who are open to other thoughts / ideas / possibilities. This is not just limited to conversation about raising children but conversations about almost any topic.
Anyway, a friend of mine once mentioned a couple of things that really stuck with me and I wanted to be sure to capture them before I forget. His first comment was:
Raising your children has 3 stages.
He also mentioned that he had 3 goals in raising his children.
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It was a weird day. I heard of 2 of my friends ending their relationship.
Earlier in the morning a friend from work mentioned that the relationship she had with for the last 5 years had ended. And later in the evneing I ran into one of my daughters’ friend’s parent who is going thru a divorce ending a 20 year marriage.
My friend from work, who had been in her relationship for 5 years but not married or engaged, mentioned that she knew that they had grown more and more apart but she was still together because the co-dependency was comfortable. Whereas my daughter’s friend’s mother, who had been married for 20 years, said that her husband was cheating and they were working on it and he did it again. Ending the relatioship (they are still in the process of their divorce) was more a relief for her and her children and they were more able to move forward.
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Say and Do.
If I seem to contradict in what I do and say it is possibly because I am saying what I think I ought to be doing but for some reason am not able to do it myself. That is my failure. Don’t use my failure as an excuse to better for yourself.
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I don’t think they have to be in any particular order.
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http://www.elephantjournal.com/2013/10/the-3-things-you-need-to-be-happy-right-now-joe-choi/
http://mrinsidesales.com/insidesalestrainingblog/three-things-you-need-to-have-to-be-happy
Recently a friend of mine shared the article “9 Brutally real reasons why millennials refuse to have kids” and there was the radio show on “All the Single Ladies” that was talking about how more and more woman are choosing to not get married or have children.
This is important not only because of the change that is happening and reminding us of that change but this is also a reminder that these lifestyles that we assume that are meant to be used to not always be like they are today. These
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