As a parent I find myself struggling with the idea of raising my children. OK, “struggling” might be a bit to hard – I find myself asking “am I doing it right?” Of course, I don’t even know what right is. I do try to talk to other’s but often end up arguing with people who are so sure of their methods that I find it difficult to actually have a conversation. the best conversation I have are with people who are open to other thoughts / ideas / possibilities. This is not just limited to conversation about raising children but conversations about almost any topic.
Anyway, a friend of mine once mentioned a couple of things that really stuck with me and I wanted to be sure to capture them before I forget. His first comment was:
Raising your children has 3 stages.
- Age 1-4 foundation
- Age 5-12 discipline instilling
- Age 12-18 consulting
He also mentioned that he had 3 goals in raising his children.
- That they (his kids) have their own authentic friendship with God
- That they treat others with respect and compassion
- That they really enjoy their own existence.