We all have secrets that we will guard with all we can. The dilemma is knowing someone else’s secret and knowing to keep it so.
Bernard Schlink has done a wonderful job of addressing this most delicate topic. He also, though very lightly, touched on the relationship between parents and children. The best example was when the father said, “I hope I have been able to be of help – as a philosopher. As a father it tears my heart to NOT be able to do all I can for my children.” (I’m paraphrasing, but will get the actual quote later).